Thursday, September 11, 2008
Vol. I, Issue 22
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Happy September! I am learning here in Carmel, California, that this is their summer season—September and October. Hot, warm days with clear skies. I am enjoying it! No matter where you live season change is in the air.
New this month—visit my NEWS page to hear my two latest radio interviews covering two different topics with great stories and examples. (1) Understanding the Energy of Children and (2) Children Teaching us Integrity of our Actions, Feelings, and Words.
After my second interview about how children remind us to be in integrity, combined with the changing of the seasons, I was inspired to write an article on honoring our own personal change. It is a personal side of me that I share to remind us all to honor our own change and honor change in others—especially in children. They are excellent evolutionary listeners.
Enjoy!
Jennifer
The Evolutionary Listener
Evolution—the process of evolving. What does it mean to evolve? To change and grow and shift and expand. We are all evolving. The biggest mistake we make is we pretend. We pretend that we are not changing, not shifting or not evolving. We stamp a name on ourselves, our career, our partners, our child, our image of who we are, and we hang on for dear life praying we do not have to let go. We in fact label ourselves and then emotionally and psychologically clutch tightly to that label. This is the very beginning of our own demise. What begins to happen over time is we unconsciously set ourselves up for being out of alignment with our true nature. We start to erode. We are no longer evolving we are eroding.
As we continue the pattern of adhering to the labels of who we think we are, our bodies are screaming out to us telling us something very different. Everyday our body is changing. Every day we are changing. There is a discrepancy within us. We are saying one thing yet our systems are doing another. We stand tall fixated on the version of us we have determined as our image yet the cells of our bodies change, the hair on our heads change, our emotional states shift, our mental states shift. We are always changing. Our knowledge and skill sets change. Our maturity level changes. We all are changing every day. This creates a disassociation of who we really are.
If everything about us is naturally changing, then why is change so hard for so many people? It seems that most are in constant resistance of change. An example I see all the time is all of us want to know our life’s purpose. However, when we step into this quandary without taking the initial step of accepting change in ourselves first, a gap is formed. A large chasm is created and we spend countless hours and money trying to find our purpose and leap over this chasm. Yet we never make it over, the chasm remains big and we wonder why we can’t connect with our inner life’s purpose.
What is important is to first align ourselves with our self. What I mean by this is to first accept change. Accept that you change every day. Accept that what you say today may not be the same tomorrow. What you feel today may be different tomorrow and this is o.k. Accept that your skin today will look different tomorrow. When you find this space of accepting CHANGE you start to dissolve the old paradigm. The old way of being stuck in your self image. The labels that create limitations in who you are and what you’re all about. When you say to yourself, “I accept change,” then you naturally start to fall into alignment with who you are that day in that very second. It releases you from the crystallized image attached to your being. These crystallized thought patterns begin to dissolve and you become more in alignment with who you are. Because who you really are – is change.
I have a history of moving a lot in my adult life. Changing location, moving to new houses, new states, and even new areas of the country. The different reactions and responses I have received over the years on my moving adventures are a book within itself. Some supportive and others not so supportive. I am learning how that is just life. No matter what choices you make in life you will always have people who agree with your choices and others who do not.
I have experienced judgment. People saying I am running away from something or that I am fearful of commitment. “I hope you find what you’re looking for,” stated in a disapproving tone is one I have heard on several occasions. As if I had done something wrong by allowing myself to move out of town, following my own personal change. Others have expressed words of concern that though they admired my courage to embrace change I am not being rational and have I considered everything first such as finances, employment, etc. I have also heard how selfish I am for leaving so many people behind. What exactly have I left behind, I ask myself? If the soul connection is there through love and unconditional support, then it remains. If it was there for only a period of time, then it served its purpose for all parties and we grow and evolve and change. We say goodbye with gratitude and life continues. Nothing is left behind.
On the flip side, others have shared enthusiastic excitement for me. Joyfully waving me along on to my next adventure. Some buying me thoughtful going away gifts, sending care packages and calling to check in regularly. Though I moved thousands of miles away, over the years, these people are still a part of my life today – another confirmation that nothing was left behind except maybe my old self. I have heard people say they believe I have no fear and this they admire. Others have labeled me as a searcher – constantly searching for something else. A searcher who roams around chasing something that can never be attained.
To bring clarity to all perceptions of my choices to move, grow, and evolve internally as well as externally, I have instead deemed myself as a listener. An excellent listener, I might add. I call myself an evolutionary listener. To me I am more an evolutionist. I flow with evolution. It is that simple. As my inside world evolves, I take notice of how my outside world wishes to change to be in alignment. I then allow this change and follow it. I listen closely and hear clearly. I then take action and honor my self evolution.
This is a very new concept to many people. Accepting the change and evolution of the self is so rare. Let alone honoring it in others. No wonder why so many people today feel unfulfilled and unsupported. It starts with accepting their own self evolution. Knowing that change is actually exactly who we are and no validating or apologizing is necessary—that we changed our minds, our partners, our careers, our passions, our feelings, or anything else about ourselves and our lives. The next step is then reaching out to accept it and honor it in others.
I was always baffled and angry that others did not view life this way. I spent way too many years filled with anger, guilt, self doubt, and resentment validating to others why I have made the choices I have made as if something was wrong with me. My choices rarely matched the inner and outer worlds of others. However, this is true for everybody if we are honest with ourselves. This I now recognize has been a gift so I can teach others the value of self evolution. The souls that continue to be in my life choose to be in my life because we support each other unconditionally. I support their change and own self evolution and they support mine. Nobody is left behind.
I remember one time telling my best friend I would support her even if she called me one day and said she wanted to become a nun and then the next day called me and told me she wanted to swim with sea turtles and start researching them. None of it matters. When I first had this awareness in my late twenties, I was angry. I was struggling with the decision of leaving my husband and I remember a conversation I had with a friend. I was telling her how upset I was about something. She listened and then said “Well, you did say this remember?” And she repeated back something I had shared and said to her 3 years prior. I was shocked. She was so locked in on something I had said THREE YEARS AGO that she could not hear me and who I was now. It was then I realized I did not understand why people did not support each other’s change. It made no sense to me. It took me ten years later to let go of all the anger I harbored around the lack of support for an individual’s change, for themselves, and for others.
Having released this anger and resentment has given me strength and courage to write and teach about it. I made a choice to continue to create an outer world that supported my inner world. I only have people in my life now that unconditionally support my self evolution as I continue to support theirs – my evolutionary tribe.
Choose to accept change in yourself. This is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and to others in your life. As you accept change in yourself you will automatically accept it in others. You will move closer to your authentic self. You will naturally dissolve your self-created labels and create room for yourself to move into more of who you really are. From that place you will then expand and open up more into your life’s passion and purpose. You will attract your own personal supportive tribe of others who value, honor, and love you no matter where you are in your life. Choose to become an evolutionary listener of the self.
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